Nowadays

We’re living in a time

Where we need to learn a lot more skills

Whether that’s:

- Reading

- Writing

- Learning

- Communicating

- Organizing

- Time Management

- Assertiveness

And so much more

But...

Skills aren’t easy to develop

They don’t form

By wanting them to form

You have to spend time

A lot of time!

First, you need to learn the skill

Then to remember and recall it

Then to do it wrong until you get it right

What makes this more challenging is…

The way the mind and body work

Anytime you stop using a skill

You begin losing it

So, you might be working on developing one skill,

But as soon as you switch to another

You begin losing the first

So…

You put in all this effort to work on yourself

And your efforts go out the window

Not because you can’t stick with things, but only because of the way your mind and body work

Luckily, there's a solution

There’s a way

To develop skills and behaviors

And multiple of them

At the same time

And with minimum effort

That's with Self-Talk

Self-talk are statements

You say or repeat to yourself

Of the changes you want to have or have happen

For example…

If you have poor memory

You would repeat statements like:

I have an excellent memory
I easily remember anything I choose

Or to become more assertive

You’d repeat statements like:

I am a calm confident communicator
I easily communicate my needs and wants

On the surface

You wouldn't think

Repeating these statements

Could do all that much

But they're huge!

That’s because…

Words are powerful

Words like water on dry soil

They seep deep into your brain and create the outcome the words describe

So, if you repeat:

I have an excellent memory

You’re memory actually begins to improve

If you repeat:

I’m a calm, confident communicator

You actually start to become calm and confident.

In fact…

Majority of your issues came from words

- Parents saying you can’t sit still

- Teacher saying your work isn't good

- Peers and bullying making fun of you

- Advertisements convincing you to buy their products

They're just words

But like I said

They go inside your mind

To create the walls in your life

Now…

If words have the power to bring you down

They naturally have the power

To bring you up

That's where self-talk comes in...

With self-talk

You can literally

Talk yourself to create new:

- Skills

- Abilities

- And behaviors

You can even develop

Multiple skills and behaviors at a time!

Even skills that seem difficult

Or out of reach

First Story …

Recently, I took up salsa dancing

And I’ll be honest

I sucked

- I had two left feet

- No rhythm

- And zero coordination

So, I started repeating the following statements:

I am an excellent dancer
I learn and pick up moves easily
I remember all the moves and execute them with precision and control
I maintain correct posture, frame, connection, and hand position throughout the dance
I have rhythm and soul, I confidently move my body and partner to the rhythm and beat of the music

I was repeating the above statements daily

And after a few months

Many were amazed

At how good my dancing got

Second Story…

Most of my life

I had a hard time talking

I used to:

- Stutter

- Stammer

- And stumbled over words

It was really hard to explain my thoughts

Or even get words out of my head

It was so bad, I often didn’t talk much

The less I talked the harder it was to communicate

So, I started by repeating the following statements:

I am an excellent communicator
I easily communicate my thoughts, ideas feelings experiences, and more
I can write about and verbalize anything
I’m never at a loss for words because the right words come to me quickly and easily

Anyone’s who’s heard me speak now

Knows I speak extremely well

I’ve been on many podcasts

And many often say

They can listen to me talk all day

What they don’t know is that

These statements were at the root of them

Self-Talk Can Even Be Used in the Moment

If you’re feeling anxious

Repeat, I’m calm and relaxed

If you’re feeling shy

Say to yourself, I’m confident and secure

If you’re losing focus,

You can say, I easily focus on anything I choose

Just by shifting your words

You can stop yourself from going down a negative spiral that can make things worse

What's great about self-talk is...

It doesn’t require a big time commitment

You can repeat the statements

Anytime and anywhere

Whether:

- Laying in bed

- In the shower

- Waiting in line

- Driving

- Cleaning

- Cooking

You can literally build and refine

Skills and behaviors while in bed

It’s quite magical

What's more...

You don't have to spend

Hundreds to thousands of dollars

To learn the ins-and-outs of what to do

And how to do it

Then spend days or weeks

To practice doing it right

All you have to do

Is describe the outcome you want

And repeat it daily

Though with practice

Your efforts really compound

In fact...

Without self-talk

You can put a lot of effort

But not make much progress

And it's likely the reason you're still stuck no matter how hard you try

Because you haven't changed the words

There's a lot more you can do with Self-Talk

What you've read above is just the start

Self-talk can be used to change:

How you think
How you act
And even how you you feel about yourself

No need to chase

All these markers of success

To feel better about yourself

You can literally do it

With just your words

Remember…

How you feel now

Came from words

It came from what

Others said to you

And what you said to yourself

Even when you got that thing

You thought would make you feel better

You're feelings still didn't change, did it?

It’s because you didn’t change your words

If you want to learn how to do this I’ve got a great video series for you

Self-Talk Mastery

Having a routine is one thing

But starting and sticking with it is another

Though don't worry

I have a fun little video series that goes into all of that

In fact, the tips are actually easier than creating the routine

The video series shows you how to:

Wording the Statements - What you say matters, so you want to word the statments in a way your brain can easily receive it

Repeating the Statements - How you say it also matters, and it's important to repeat the statemens for maximum impact

Areas You Can Work On - You'll learn how to use self-talk to improv the different areas of your life you can use self-talk with on, and the right ways to work on them

Done-for-You-Scripts - It can be hard to create the right statements, so there are over 100 statements you can pick and choose so you can start right away.

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