Skills, Habits, Behaviors, and Routines in Your Sleep
Welcome back to your second guide.
My name's Kam Knight, I'm a coach, International speaker, and author of a dozen books in the area of mental, physical, and emotional performance.
In this guide, you'll learn a simple way to build skills and habits in your sleep.
Well, practically in your sleep.
At the very least, while laying down.
This has never been more important
That's because, we're living in a time where we need to develop more skills than ever before.
That includes:
- Reading
- Writing
- Learning
- Organizing
- Communicating
- Eating Better
- Exercising More
And MUCH more
Unfortunately...
Skills and behaviors aren’t easy to develop
They don’t form by wanting them to form.
They form only by spending the time to form them.
A lot of time!
First, you need to learn the skill.
Then, you have to remember and recall it.
What's more, you have to do it wrong until you get it right.
What makes this even more challenging is…
The way your mind and body work, anytime you stop using a skill, you begin losing it.
Sometimes at an exponential rate.
This is how many fall into a pattern of yo-yo dieting, and yo-yo just about anything in their life.
So...
You might spend weeks or months to learn something new
But as soon as you switch to something else, you begin losing the first.
That means, all the effort you put in the first skill goes out the window.
Not because you don't have what it takes, but only because of the way your mind and body work.
Luckily, there's a solution
There’s a way to build skills and habits, and multiple of them at a time, with little to no effort.
That's right!
With little to no effort.
And that's what you're going to learn in this guide.
You see...
Skills and habits form one and only one way
They don't form by:
- Wanting them to form
- Needing them to form
- Whining about them to form
Or from inspirational quotes, motivational books, or life-changing movies.
They from ONLY through repetition
They form by repeating a habit or behavior over and over.
The more you repeat a behavior, the more it begins to take shape.
That's it!
Now...
There's 3 ways to repeat a skill, habit, or behavior
- The first is physical
- The second is visual
- The last, and most important, is VERBAL
Verbal repetition is about creating statements around the change or outcome you want to have or happen, and then repeating those statements regularly.
For example…
If you have poor memory, you would repeat statements like:
- I have an excellent memory
- I easily remember names, dates, facts, and more
Or if you want to become more assertive, you might repeat statements like:
- I am a calm, confident communicator
- I easily communicate my needs and wants
On the surface, you wouldn't think repeating such statements could do all that much.
But it's HUGE!
That’s because words are powerful
Like water on dry soil, they seep into your brain to create the outcome the words describe.
So, if you repeat:
- I have an excellent memory
Your memory does begin to improve.
If you repeat:
- I’m a calm, confident communicator
Your confidence actually grows.
Again, I'm sure you can't imagine it to be that easy, but it can.
In fact…
Majority of your issues in life came from words
They came from:
- Parents saying you can’t sit still
- Teachers saying your work isn't good
- Peers and bullies making fun of you
- Advertisements saying you need to buy their product
They were just words, but like I said, they go inside your mind to create the outcomes in your life.
Now…
If words have the power to bring you down
They naturally have the power to bring you up.
And they do!
By repeating positive words, your program your mind to move in a positive direction.
In other words...
It's possible to build skills and habits with words alone
You can literally talk yourself to new:
You can even develop multiple skills and behaviors at a time!
Even skills and behaviors that seem difficult or out of reach
Don't believe me?
Meet Joannas
He recently took up dancing, and to be honest, he sucked at dancing
He had:
- No rhythm
- Zero coordination
- And two left feet
-So, I had him start repeating the following statements:
- I am an excellent dancer
- I learn and pick up moves easily
- I remember all the moves and execute them with precision and control
- I maintain correct posture, frame, connection, and hand position throughout the dance
- I have rhythm and soul
And after a few months, many were amazed at his progress.
Above all, he was amazed himself.
What's more...
Meet Yenny
She had difficulty communicating.
She would:
- Stutter
- Stammer
- And stumbled over words
It was hard for her to put words to her thoughts, or even get her words out.
It was so bad, she often didn’t talk, and the less she talked, the worse her issue got.
So, I had her regularly repeat the following statements:
Anyone’s who’s heard her speak now, knows she speaks extremely well.
And the consistent feedback she get's is around how well she communicates ideas.
I'll go as far as to say ...
Some skills CAN'T be developed any other way
Skills like assertiveness require pushing past shyness and insecurities.
Although you can read everything about how to be assertive, as soon as you go out to do it, the shyness and insecurity will hold you back.
Since self-talk rewires your brain, the statements can actually release the shyness and insecurities, and create an inner push to do it.
As a result, you hesitate less and act more, and that's what building skills and habits are all about - repeating more action!
All you have to do is repeat the statements enough, and you'll naturally find yourself becoming assertive.
The same apples with confidence
You can't read books or attend seminars about confidence, and automatically become confident.
That's because confidence isn't something you do.
It's something you are!
So acting confident is not the same as being confident.
Since self-talk rewires the mind, you can self-talk your way to more confidence.
It's way better than pretending to be confident.
What's great about self-talk is...
Unlike traditional ways of building skills and habits, that require a lot of time and effort, self-talk only requires repeating some statements.
And you can do that anytime and anywhere, whether:
- Cooking
- Cleaning
- Driving
- Waiting in line
- In the shower
- In bed
You can literally build and improve skills and behaviors while laying in bed.
It can be quite magical.
What's more...
You don't have to spend thousands of dollars on coaches and experts
Or spend weeks and months attending workshops and seminars.
All you have to do is describe the outcome you want, and repeat it daily.
That's it!
Remember…
How you feel now came from words
It came from what others said.
And more importantly, what you repeated yourself.
And have been repeating yourself.
So...
If you're looking to make a change
Whether that's to:
- Start a habit
- Develop a skill
- Or improve a routine
Start with self-talk.
Start by creating a set of statements that describe the outcome you seet, and repeat the statements daily.
There are many examples above to know how to form the statements.
I hope you enjoyed this fun guide
It's meant to be simple enough to get you started
And starting is the first step to repeating.
So start now, write out some statements and begin repeating them daily.
Thanks again for reading
Your next guide
"End Procrastination & Sabotage" will be arriving tomorrow.
It's one everyone finds eye opening.
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